Equality.

(Staging the social-a-priori for SDGs #2030)

So, i don’t think that my parting article (my particle, haha) - as i am planning to retiring the pen this year (2023), or technically just the publication - should not be as jarring to read, but after giving it much thought, the need to publicly (via this commenting-social-enabled pub) weigh it - is subject only to a real editing — uploading-severely-outdated-pictures time constraint.

2010. (The soccer daughter, and her room).

Let’s start with why.

• Time is limited.
• You are a limited edition.
• We are not the climate, and we need not be perished by toxic waste-or things that go shooosh in the air.
• We are not superheroes (or was, or have been) - okay, we are retired superheroes. Of our lives.
• Because, this is the real retirement plan.
• Finding a space to luxuriate — or be yourself — is not a thing.
• The rolling numbers of having the time-space continues to baffle everyone, but if you are not dead, you don’t have to just be read in a book about you, or (published what you wrote after you died).
• So if you do decide to be a rolling author -and actually socialise- or make time for people, and not just “for people”, then that is a clear option and personally, is what i would do.
• This is not your typical mishmash-of-cheese fondue. You can melt it, and it still won’t be officially good.
• There’s tomato, and there’s tomato.
• Hope is still afloat, in the air, and in our hearts, and yet after all the change/ changes - is it really ?

Signs you need to gain perspective, in a relationship.

• You are introverted, unexpectedly.
• As a default, someone else is getting “all the fun”.
• People are out to get you.
• You get stuck indoors.
• Somewhere, there is a doppleganger of you, living your best life “for you”.
• There are people in the office und-endlessly speaking (trash talking about a “fake promotion” you were getting) and getting upset by them, was the #1 thing to tick off in your daily diary. (And getting Coffee, only #2.)
• Fast-forward was the switch to your deadlines looming, as your political nemeses continue to mismanage your timelines - and you can’t say a thing about it.
• Being popular, was the outcome or payback to all the unequivocally “bad boss” days - that called on people, without them being trained well.
• Being popular, was not an intention. Full stop.
• Maybe, there’s enough in the Grid of being yourself, that you could do without - and pruning your calendar, is an actual wiser use of time.
• When you need people, more than being yourself. Be your own Popper Potts.

How to end things, gracefully.

• Start with the end in mind.
• Cope. And just let that thing you need to let out, get out. (Finally).
• Make sure you are not dominant in a conversation where you need to end things - be compassionate. But also, more importantly, do not be overconfident and appear to be a contagion of
• Do not put things in a letter. That is a waste of energy, and maybe an invite to the talk would be well written, with gifts of either : a chocolate box (that isn’t saying: marry me), but just any normal non-grocery purchase (ok, maybe just a box of macarons — that’s more friendly), do Not make them yourself, and choose colours that would state how you are sincere about being friends or distant acquaintances afterwards, not utterly desperate to reconcile.
• Letter writing is not for dweebs, and whiny Greenpeace rebels. We also like petitioning classes - and the stuff that needs to be there. Maybe, tuning in once in a while, will actually prove smarter when you are being available is a noble thing -on the side of looking for that partner to spend *all that free time* with.
• I would say, take a class -and whittle your middle section- while you’re at it, sculpting your physciality actually helps outwardly, but also helps make you feel better inside. I took a lot of yoga, and pilates (and seeing therapists and australian family minding coaches when it gets overwhelming) and that really helped. But, it is a guarantee -the avenue to health- is positive socials, and being in a space that you can cultivate your ultimate self in. (The one that you manufactured in your brain, and not put there by the person who you were seeing during a pivot point, or a difficult time in your life.)
• Managing kids.
• Managing kids, more. And better -with pets! I find that pets are good with situations, because they are more intuitive than we know (and not just get us by the day, but through a lot of things).
• Being understanding of your immediate people.
• (& Knowing who they are.)
• Being an Adult, on your own terms.
• Knowing what that means.
• Striking an accord with fellow Adults — who treat you with the same height and level of respect, not patronage or sympathy. But, knowing the difference is also important (*patronisation is not sympathy*).
• Having a better relationship, and having your past be okay with your future - so that, there is an Adult situation the kids could look to, in the aftermath of your “I want to be an Adult” project.
• Write a book. And be gracious to mention people for the actual credit -(& knowing where it was really due).
• Succumbing absolutely no one to further damage, and failure of being a symptom of the Social Malaise that plagued you during the time of ending a relationship. (Even if it was your first time to do that, or your parents’ third time).
• Don’t corrupt people with Actions, when your personal Words (uttered to the right people in the right avenues - *okay a letter suffices*) actually are more efficiently effective.
• Don’t send flowers.
• Meet in person, to gain a better view of who you are referring to, more lengthily - and understand that they are people, Not digital compressions of your understanding them.
• Sufficiently exit, with a smile. Even if you braved it with three cups of coffee (with an irish cream slug) and finished the conversation with tequila shots afterward. There are things, we need to seriously do.

When you finally move on, and think about the past — whether, it was with a man, or a woman — it must not be entirely a bad thing to find someone to actually manage (or choose your partner to mismanage) your time with.

(Or shades of my Lessons in Chemistry obsession, since last week.)

Choosing a partner.

That feels like it should be an entirely new (non-work) space. Yes, i am that sort (not mixing Work, and Friendships-turned-Something-Else).

Maybe the startups here could leave their current numbers, and we could download to several countries, as per workspace? This wasn’t started in one — officially, it was started in some ex-bankers’ restaurant i happened to be having Ô-Batignolles aperós in sometime in 2015, on an iPad. :)

But, alas, here it is. Ciao ciao.

Socials, are a time to be Not Writing (bullets, recipes, travel tips, techie-show-offy-blah blahs, how to advertise, how to research, how to remain digestible, or fungible, or monetised — or a how-to-create-affirmations in spiels, to a highly crowdfunded area) and it is not time for Jokers.

It was lovely to have everyone read and follow “Of Hothouses & Breadcrumbs”.

And a big Thank You for coming, along on this truly amazing 7-year, revelatory covers of the “paper-not-paper” tech-in-science journey.